After a long pause, I got her only thought: "No, I get it," she said emphatically. But it's kinda like asking the newly vegetarian fox to guard the henhouse, isn't it? I worked hard to become the embodiment of seduction.
If you back me up a few years — sans wife, kids, dogs, published book on relationships, 1.5 million readers and fans following my relationship advice on Facebook — I was a chronic womanizer; a past she knows about, but never experienced personally. In effect, to become so alluring that she would willingly give herself over, thinking that having sex was her idea.
To make matters worse, I wasn't some weak pick-up artist using idiotic dating boot camp approaches that reeked of negativity and douchebaggery on vulnerable women in order to break them down and manipulate them into sex. After all, it's much easier to convince people of things they think they have thought of themselves. There's nothing to fear."After another pregnant pause, she consented with a few words of sage advice:, nearly 50 percent of married women and 60 percent of married men will have an extramarital affair at some point in their marriage.
I responded to a few messages, and before I knew it I was invited to a chat session with "Sexy Cat" (profile name changed to ensure her anonymity).
Sexy Cat wanted to know all kinds of things, and what I would do if given the opportunity. In each session, I attempted to take things to the next level—an in-person meeting—but no-go.
With my wife watching TV on the couch a mere 10 feet away, here I was talking dirty to a 36-year-old married woman (who's husband was probably watching TV on the couch a mere 10 feet away from her). I discovered that to satisfy their deep longing for passion with minimal risk, many women sign up for Ashley Madison to have virtual sex via chat. Most of these women seemed comfortable in getting what they needed online.