“Even though you feel special, you realize they don’t even really know you.
Real intimacy requires a lot of sharing and listening, and you might walk away feeling really tired and drained and realize they mostly just talk about themselves.”It may seem as if narcissists are so full of themselves that they don’t need anyone reminding them how great they are, but that’s exactly what they need.
They’re always looking at themselves and how gorgeous they look; they’re shallow and not really connecting with anything deeper than outward appearances,” Kouffman Sherman says.
“This also plays into why they don’t think they need to own up to anything: because they think they’re perfect.” This self-importance goes way beyond pride: Narcissists expect to be praised even when their achievements don't support their sense of superiority.
A true malignant narcissist is like playing with C4 (fire - ha - not even close).