Prepare yourself for life—even a single life—by education, experience, and planning. I am asking her to come up and tell us what is in her heart. I was married in my middle 50s, and I feel like I’m becoming the poster girl for “old.” Before I start, I feel to tell you how much you are loved by your Heavenly Father. Make it count by dedicating your time to your Heavenly Father. It is something that happens every day of our lives. It can be very painful to be single for such a long time, especially in a church of families. On my 50th birthday my brother-in-law was reading the newspaper. I would say to everyone in this room, always remember that your first calling is as a mother or as a father.
We are in Oakland, and I’ve just been to the visitors’ center across the way with President Robert Bauman of the mission. He said, “Hey, it says here in the paper that at age 50 your chances for getting killed by terrorists are better than your chances for getting married.” I knew that dating was tough when he said that, but don’t give up. Develop those domestic talents, talents of love and talents of service.
You may have a child who is very ill or experience the death of someone close to you or have a period of life that is very lonely.
You may lose a child or have a situation you have no control over, such as a lingering disease. Now, brothers and sisters, if you are troubled about something we have just said, please listen very carefully to what I will say now.
Gather your courage and look for someone to pair off with.
Start with a variety of dates with a variety of young women, and when that phase yields a good prospect, proceed to courtship. That is what the Lord intends for His young adult sons and daughters.
There is another possible contributing factor to the demise of dating and the prominence of the culture of hanging out.