Some examples of avoidance behaviors include: - Saying the issue isn't important enough to spend time on - Saying there isn't enough time to do the topic justice - Gunnysacking - Being overly polite - Defining any emotion as discord and calling for objectivity when discussing differences - Smoothing over discord whenever a difference arises, so differences never are discussed - Focusing on details to the exclusion of the real issues - Demanding rationality whenever emotions arise - Attacking the other person verbally - Using evasive remarks to avoid sensitive topics - Shifting the topic away from the conflict - Avoiding topics where conflict may occur - Making noncommittal statements that sound like, but are not really, agreement - Keeping conversations at an abstract level - Joking to distract from the real issues in a conflict While always choosing competition has negative repercussions for relationships, businesses and cultures, it can occasionally be the right style to choose if the other party is firmly fixed in a competitive style or there are genuinely scarce resources.
Understanding the tactics and strategies of others who use competitive styles can assist conflict managers in defusing the negative consequences of competition and working toward a mutual gains approach.
The winning party may also begin to take advantage.
Another disadvantage is that the accommodating party may end up sacrificing a principle that hampers meeting the long-term goal.
Bright holds a Bachelor of Science in psychology from the University of North Carolina-Pembroke and a Master of Arts in psychology-marriage and family therapy from Brandman University.